Social media has let us develop new behaviors unique to this generation of adults, and as such, it is so important to really understand how those permeate into every aspect of your life. Not just online, but in real life. We created a list of what we think are the worst five social media habits to deploy in real life situations and interactions. If you do any of these, maybe this is a good chance to course-correct before that FOMO becomes the Reality of Missing Out.
Tired of a conversation? Ran out of things to say? Decided you no longer enjoy somebody and just want to be done with them in your life? Well, due in whole to text messaging and instant messaging, Ghosting has become a very normal part of meeting new people or interacting with social acquaintances these days. Essentially, to _Ghost_ someone means to go from being communicative to instantaneously disappearing from their life entirely— zero communication, or total cut-off from them to you. This works easy and doesn’t feel too harsh through messaging, but when this behavior bleeds over into your day-to-day interactions is when it becomes inappropriate. Checking out, mentally during meetings or college classes, maybe walking away while your family or roommate is trying to talk to you in the kitchen. Even just shrugging off friendly small-talk with the cashier at the grocery store. Ghosting can become a very isolating trait to carry into real life, and can cause disappointment in everyone affected.
4. Always Trying To Be the Most Interesting
Online, the only way we are heard is by posting something really interesting, risque, controversial, or something that really grabs attention. Otherwise, most of our minute tweets about watching House of Cards go unnoticed by our friends and followers. However, in real life trying to compete constantly to be the most interesting person in the room is not only annoying to those around you, but is exhausting for you. Sometimes, pretending that the person tending the changing room at H&M was _totally_ trying to hit on you, while spouting out the top ten facts about LeBron in the NBA Finals is not going to win you appreciation in real conversation. Always best to share the attention in real life conversations. Try to play off others, and build something substantive. Save the listicles for Facebook.
- Trying to always have the most popular post, meme, whatever in a real conversation it can ruin the flow.
Listen, there is never a moment where shouting, “YOLO” into the night outside the bar to your friends is a good idea. Acronyms in real life are always the worst decision. Nobody wants to hear you say “LOL” instead of laughing or saying “AF” tagged behind anything you think is really awesome. These just make you that annoying person in your group— Don’t be that.
2. Interested in Everywhere Else
FOMO has become a real issue with younger generations. This fear of missing out on something else going on can easily spill over into your real life causing you to shy away from being present where you are and with what you’re doing, and instead focusing on the next event. Many people just want to feel busy and feel like that calendar is always booked, but is that really worth distancing yourself from those you are with in those moments? I always say, if you want to hang out with someone else then just go and do that, but if you want to hang out with me, put your phone in your pocket and be there.
1. Private Communications in Public
Even if we are happy to be present with our friends, there are times when we feel compelled to create a private chat between one or two of the people we are hanging out with in real life. Online, we can DM anyone we want and hold multiple chats at the same time, but in person, we are held to a higher standard of inclusion. By creating new private conversations and inside jokes within the underbelly of a hangout is a sure-fire way to kill any fun being had, because everyone’s defenses go straight through the roof when you tell that other person to check their phone quick.